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[murielm99]

8. When I spoke with my daughter again

this evening, I found out that there are more concerns. I cannot mention some of the things the ex is doing on a discussion board. There are lawyers involved.

My youngest daughter seems to be coping. My son is another matter. He is angry with me. His wife could not come to the funeral with him, so he did not have her support. She was finishing up at a job she disliked, and starting a new job that we all hope is better.

My son worked at the same lab as Tom. He was given a week off for bereavement leave. My son loved Tom. Tom was revered at the lab. Everyone from the caretakers to the COO knew him, and had been helped by him. Tom ran a groundbreaking program there, and set up quark labs in thirteen countries. Everyone is trying to commiserate with my reserved son, and he is having a hard time even going to work. It is more than he can cope with.

I think I will leave my son alone until I can speak with him about my health. Then I will apologize for my bitchy behavior, and hope we can move on. My son and I have always been close.

Things are very tough right now. It seems that our time for mourning is being overshadowed by too many other concerns.

I have been through deaths and funerals before. I have never been in a situation like this. We are a pretty straightforward family, but this is like a bad soap opera.