My Dad died

[auntAgonist]

10. You're absolutely right DLO.

You don't have to 'deal' with anything. You don't need to 'be strong for' anyone. You have to look after YOU.
Being a mess is not only appropriate but it's healthy. Don't hold it in. Give yourself permission to fall to bits. Most of all, do not forget to take any medications you are prescribed, eat according to what your dietary needs are and for heaven sake keep sipping fluids. Try to get rest and LET OTHER PEOPLE do for you.

When they ask what you need, tell them, even if it's just having your shoes shined for you or a basket of laundry washed, dried and ironed. People feel a great need to step up and help, let them!

my deepest sympathy on the loss of your dear Father.
Cherish those good memories.

kesha.