Bereavement

Tanuki

(15,373 posts)

12. My guess is that your mother's choice of that particular casket took into account

Thu Mar 31, 2016, 04:57 AM

Mar 2016

the price at the time and the fact that she considered it within her budget. Don't torment yourself with the thought that it was something she had her heart set on. Knowing her as you do, do you really think she would have chosen that model if the cost at the time had eaten into your own assets to the tune of three thousand dollars? She sounds like she was prudent and thoughtful before the dementia set in and made a choice, to the extent she could foresee, to cover the expenses on her own. I believe that was the "spirit" of her last wish and I would be inclined to honor it by limiting the expenses to those which could be covered by the trust.

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

12 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

My mom turned 97 last month. In 1998, she paid 7K for a pre-paid funeral plan. [View all] Hoppy Mar 2016 OP

If it's her money DeadLetterOffice Mar 2016 #1

Unfortunately, she has demintia and would not be able to communicate wishes. Hoppy Mar 2016 #2

Caskets aren't really that expensive Uben Mar 2016 #3

My last wish is to be cremated in a cardboard box angstlessk Mar 2016 #4

Funeral costs are horrendous. I speak from the view of someone who worked auntAgonist Mar 2016 #5

One word: AZ Jim Mar 2016 #6

First of all Jim, auntAgonist Mar 2016 #9

i think if you can afford it, and it won't cause you any undo hardship, orleans Mar 2016 #7

I think you're right in all of your observation and comment. n/t auntAgonist Mar 2016 #10

Is it possible to "negotiate" with the funeral home re price of the casket? No Vested Interest Mar 2016 #8

If you can get the model number for the original casket it might be possible to find it cheaper auntAgonist Mar 2016 #11

My guess is that your mother's choice of that particular casket took into account Tanuki Mar 2016 #12