Bereavement

Geoff R. Casavant

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3. I think any advice I might give would sound condescending.

Mon Dec 12, 2011, 11:34 AM

Dec 2011

I'm not in your shoes, and I can only barely imagine the grief you are going through.

But you must remember that even though your husband is gone, there are still many many people who love you. Sometimes the only way to get happy is to make others happy. Perhaps you know of other folks who will be spending the holidays alone, why not invite them to spend the day with you?

Or, if your old traditions are too painful right now, you might try making new ones. Perhaps donate some gifts to a shelter, and bring them in person?

Above all, remember that the world remains a better place simply by your presence in it.

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Hello my friends. I am having real trouble with Christmas. [View all] Paper Roses Dec 2011 OP

Hugs... Tikki Dec 2011 #1

I am so sorry for your loss. bitchkitty Dec 2011 #2

I think any advice I might give would sound condescending. Geoff R. Casavant Dec 2011 #3

Me too JustAnotherGen Dec 2011 #4

In 1992, when my Grandmother died, my Aunt said to me "Everything is going to be different now." livetohike Dec 2011 #5

My grandma died in July 2003 47of74 Dec 2011 #10

It's hard, but you realize how precious the time is and are taking steps to livetohike Dec 2011 #12

So sorry... We are Devo Dec 2011 #6

I just now saw your post and I'm so pleased there are others here who replied auntAgonist Dec 2011 #7

Sympathizing Blandocyte Dec 2011 #8

I agree.. We are Devo Dec 2011 #9

Me too... pipi_k Dec 2011 #11

This message was self-deleted by its author Mosby Dec 2011 #13

Dec. 17, my son died I don't want to go into the details but, Josh is missed by all who loved him Tippy Dec 2011 #14

thinking of you .. and so terribly sorry for your loss. auntAgonist Dec 2011 #15

Thank you....it helps to have a place to visit when things get tough.. Tippy Dec 2011 #16

you certainly weren't the only one with these feelings orleans Dec 2011 #17

Life, and death, comes at you fast, then you have the holidays.. curious_citizen Dec 2011 #18

Yours is such a heart wrenching story .. auntAgonist Dec 2011 #19

Thanks curious_citizen Jan 2012 #20