Bereavement
In reply to the discussion: My Mother's dead. I don't know what to do. I'll never be able to hug [View all]raging moderate
(4,524 posts)My mother died about 25 years ago. I still cry a little sometimes. The memories of hugging her do stay with you for comfort. Several times in the year after her death, my mother came to me in a dream. I cried out, "Mom!" and we hugged and smiled together. She said "Thank you," but then she had to leave. One day, several years later, I was making myself a peanut butter sandwich, and I thought: I wonder what my Mom is doing right now. Suddenly, a forceful answer came into my mind: "Well, right now, I am making a peanut butter sandwich for my daughter!" Then I looked down at my hands and realized: My mother's hands were the first hands I ever saw doing this, and she is the person who taught me how to do this, and so many other parts of living. Your many memories of your mother will always be with you, and also she stays with you in every other moment of your life, through the love she shared with you.