Bereavement

TygrBright

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78. My Mom would certainly agree.

Tue Dec 19, 2023, 11:48 PM

Dec 2023

I had the sense that she was trying to spare us somewhat... not wanting her children to think she was eager to leave US. We knew, and I know the last few conversations with her I had, I tried to convey that it was okay to want to go.

Our system for handling the end of life transitions is very inadequate.

sadly,
Bright

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I'm in MN for my mother's funeral [View all] TygrBright Dec 2023 OP

Peace be with you. mobeau69 Dec 2023 #1

TY, mobeau. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #40

Hugggggggs. I have no words that might help, just know that your DU family niyad Dec 2023 #2

Thank you... leaning into this... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #5

That's a healthy response; I was devastated for 3 years duhneece Dec 2023 #29

You and so many here... Thank you. Community does matter. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #39

I'm so sorry. 😞 onecaliberal Dec 2023 #3

Hugs and light gratefully accepted... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #41

TygrBright. go ahead and cry. Losing your mom, is a very difficult experience. Big Blue Marble Dec 2023 #4

Yes. It's a very strange sensation... They're all gone, now. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #6

I am so sorry for your loss, Bright. sheshe2 Dec 2023 #7

Thanks, sheshe... peace is also an exercise of faith. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #42

Oh my dear TygrBright . . . My heart goes out to you in this deep moment of loss . . . CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2023 #8

Your heart is always a source of consolation here, CalPeggy... ty. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #43

Big hug to ya. Eko Dec 2023 #9

TY, Eko. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #44

I know what you are going through. Eko Dec 2023 #83

Yes, the paragraphs and novels are written on our hearts and become part of us. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #85

A big hug, Bright Easterncedar Dec 2023 #10

Thanks, Easterncedar... and thanks for that sigline of yours. Mom would have approved. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #45

My condolences... 2naSalit Dec 2023 #11

Thank you, 2na. Good to feel the warmth here. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #46

This expresses exactly how I felt 30 years ago louslobbs Dec 2023 #12

TY, louslobbs. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #47

Very sorry to hear of your loss. marble falls Dec 2023 #13

Kind words appreciated, marble falls. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #48

I'm very sorry, Bright. Be good to yourself. brer cat Dec 2023 #14

It's a challenge, brer cat, but the care here on DU is a help. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #49

I am very sorry irisblue Dec 2023 #15

I was just thinking I wish I'd saved some of her voice mails... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #50

What a thoughtful and articulate sharing! Frasier Balzov Dec 2023 #16

TY, Frasier. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #51

When we lose our mom, we are a motherless child and my heart goes out for you Deuxcents Dec 2023 #17

TY, Deuxcents. It is the kind of loss that resonates forever. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #52

Yes, it does. Not time is a better time but in this season, it's especially hard. Deuxcents Dec 2023 #65

Thank you. Yes, holiday traditions can be painful reminders. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #76

I am so sorry. Diamond_Dog Dec 2023 #18

Thank you, Diamond... I can certainly use those. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #53

So sorry for your loss Picaro Dec 2023 #19

Thank you, Picaro. It's a cruel, cruel condition. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #54

Do not inflict guilt on yourself. Recover and cherish the good memories. Hermit-The-Prog Dec 2023 #20

Thanks. I think some guilt is natural, I just try not to wallow. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #56

I'm so sorry for your loss. Phoenix61 Dec 2023 #21

Exactly, Phoenix... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #57

I'm sorry, Bright OddMom20 Dec 2023 #22

Thank you, OddMom... I don't know about 'easier' or 'better' but 'accustomed' will happen. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #58

Man, I am crying a lot right now. BigmanPigman Dec 2023 #23

Yes, it comes in irregular waves... I'll find myself suddenly tired. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #59

I am glad that you are able PlutosHeart Dec 2023 #24

TY Plutos. Great blessing that she was in MN - that elderly waiver was a godsend. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #60

I'm so sorry for your loss. My sympathy to you and livetohike Dec 2023 #25

TY livetohike... there are indeed many stories. I'll keep them in my heart forever. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #62

Hugs snd my deepest condolences for your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Dec 2023 #26

Thank you, ProudMNDemocrat. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #63

Condolences, TygrBriight gademocrat7 Dec 2023 #27

Much appreciated, gadem. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #64

sending hugs joanbarnes Dec 2023 #28

Hugs always appreciated, thanks. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #66

Well written; cathartic for us all. Peace. cachukis Dec 2023 #30

Thank you, cachukis. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #68

No matter how long we have them, they're always gone before we're ready Warpy Dec 2023 #31

Yes, even knowing it was coming, it was still a kind of cataclysm. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #69

So sorry you lost your Mom.It's never easy. Fla Dem Dec 2023 #32

Thank you, Fla Dem. I hope so... she was always a great source of wisdom. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #70

Sincere condolences Alice Kramden Dec 2023 #33

Thank you, Alice. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #71

Your mother's passing was much like that of my mom. She passed away in May 2015. sinkingfeeling Dec 2023 #34

Thank you for this, sinkingfeeling... TygrBright Dec 2023 #72

We're never ready to lose our moms dflprincess Dec 2023 #35

Thank you, princess... so many kind people here. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #73

I can only speak from my experience GAJMac Dec 2023 #36

Thank you, GAJMac. This forum is part of why DU's community is so strong. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #74

Just love. mahina Dec 2023 #37

Mahalo, mahina... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #75

So sorry for your loss, peacebuzzard Dec 2023 #38

Much appreciated, peacebuzzard. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #77

At the end of the day. you should decide when it ends. OAITW r.2.0 Dec 2023 #55

My Mom would certainly agree. TygrBright Dec 2023 #78

My mom died from ALS. She went from an awesome person in her 70's OAITW r.2.0 Dec 2023 #81

Their pain weaves into our pain, how could it be otherwise? n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #82

I'm so sorry for your loss. Ocelot II Dec 2023 #61

Just so, Ocelot. It's like reaching for a step that isn't there anymore. A jolt. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #79

Your post hit me hard as this will be me shortly. Freethinker65 Dec 2023 #67

TY, Freethinker. I hope your visit brings you some serenity with the transition coming. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #80

Damn, this stuff is hard. Dark n Stormy Knight Dec 2023 #84

Thank you, Dark n Stormy. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #86

TygrBright, I'm so sorry for your loss, BComplex Dec 2023 #87

Thank you, BComplex. You're right about the unique quality of parents' contribution to who we are... TygrBright Dec 2023 #90

I am soooooooooo sorry TygrBright a kennedy Dec 2023 #88

Thank you, a kennedy. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #91

Peace, my dear Hekate Dec 2023 #89

Much thanks, Hekate... presence and 'voices' of my DU friends do console. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #92

Saying sorry for your loss won't help, but I'm sorry anyway. imavoter Jan 2024 #93

Thank you, Imavoter, and welcome to DU. n/t TygrBright Jan 2024 #94

Im not new, been here since 2007, had to reup several years ago imavoter Jan 2024 #95

Glad you are still here, then. Kind wishes are always helpful. n/t TygrBright Jan 2024 #96

I'm so sorry, TygrBright... JudyM Jan 2024 #97

Thank you for the kind words, JudyM. I'm discovering... TygrBright Jan 2024 #98

That's an excellent analogy. JudyM Jan 2024 #99

Peace and strength to you and family TygBright. kairos12 Jun 2024 #100

Thank you, kairos12. TygrBright Jun 2024 #102

So sorry - and it all sounds so familiar. Ocelot II Jun 2024 #101

Just like that, yes, Ocelot 11 - Sometimes I 'hear' her voice in my ear. n/t TygrBright Jun 2024 #103

What a gorgeous tribute, Bright! ❤️ cilla4progress Jun 2024 #104

Thanks, cilla4progress. Will hold your husband & family in my heart, too. TygrBright Jun 2024 #105

I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Jun 2024 #106

Thank you, LetMyPeopleVote n/t TygrBright Jun 2024 #107

Peace and strength to you TygrBright. It sounds as if she led a very productive life. LoisB Jun 2024 #108

She did, LoisB. I'm glad you could share even this little bit of knowing her - thank you! n/t TygrBright Jun 2024 #109