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Bereavement

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SleeplessinSoCal

(9,714 posts)
Thu Feb 15, 2024, 11:11 PM Feb 2024

My mom died today. [View all]

We drove down to be with her for her last 90 minutes. All we could do was stroke her hair.

She made it to 100 and one month exactly. We had a family party on Saturday despite her being jaundiced and in some pain, she really wanted us to celebrate with her.. Her health deteriorated quickly the past few months. They discovered a tumor in her Liver 2 weeks ago. She had gallbladder issues in September. Falls led to a fractured foot. And finally this week a 2nd mini stroke.

My youngest brother has been her caregiver. I feel for him. He tries to find humor in everything. This past week was hard on him and my sister, who has been staying with them. All five of her kids (I'm the oldest) were there. I finally understand what is meant by person passes peacefully with their family around them. Morphine drops made that possible. We were there for her last breath.

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My mom died today. [View all] SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 OP
Thank you for the story. My condolences to you and your family Tetrachloride Feb 2024 #1
She made many friends where she lived the last 25 years SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #43
Sounds like you and your family gave her a gentle passage. calimary Feb 2024 #2
There was a hospice nurse who came to clean her. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #14
I'm so sorry to hear of her passing. forgotmylogin Feb 2024 #21
Hospice care was a Godsend. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #44
... Drum Feb 2024 #3
Yes, thank you for envisioning cilla4progress Feb 2024 #4
I am so sorry, but it sounds like you all did the right thing. Rhiannon12866 Feb 2024 #5
Each person is different CANADIANBEAVER69 Feb 2024 #6
Many hugs to you Sleepless. My mother passed in similar fashion almost 10 years ago. I alwaysinasnit Feb 2024 #7
Thank you. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #18
Holding you znd your family in love and light. niyad Feb 2024 #8
So very very sorry, Sleepless. diva77 Feb 2024 #9
sorry for your loss, helping her pass with little pain is hard but honorable Shellback Squid Feb 2024 #10
You were lucky to have her that long. OAITW r.2.0 Feb 2024 #11
There is something I learned called fish out of water breathing SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #22
Seen it more than a few times. OAITW r.2.0 Feb 2024 #26
((Sleepless)) blm Feb 2024 #12
My condolences to you and your family. 🌺 Deuxcents Feb 2024 #13
Sincere condolences Picaro Feb 2024 #15
Strangely, yes. I guess. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #47
I'm so sorry. Nt spooky3 Feb 2024 #16
Blessings and peace PlutosHeart Feb 2024 #17
I'm so sorry for your loss. Beacool Feb 2024 #19
Thank you. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #46
Holding you in my heart. It's a tough loss. TygrBright Feb 2024 #20
Sorry for your loss too. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #24
Our Moms probably would have been friends. I hope someone does that for me some day. n/t TygrBright Feb 2024 #58
My grandmother almost made it to 104 BigmanPigman Feb 2024 #23
Wow! SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #28
I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Feb 2024 #25
Condolences and a sharing of memories OldSWODog Feb 2024 #27
I'm very pleased my sharing helped you. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #29
loss OldSWODog Feb 2024 #32
My condolences to you.... DemocraticPatriot Feb 2024 #30
just wrote a long reply which I lost. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #89
I'm so sorry. Ocelot II Feb 2024 #31
I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. Dem2theMax Feb 2024 #33
Im so sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Feb 2024 #34
I'm so sorry for your loss. cate94 Feb 2024 #35
I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Feb 2024 #36
Bless your mom. Bless you, your youngest brother (trooper and giver), your sister, and all family. keopeli Feb 2024 #37
My heart and my thoughts to you and yours. herding cats Feb 2024 #38
I am so very sorry for the loss of your Mother.💔 lucca18 Feb 2024 #39
My heart is with you TruthAlwaysWins Feb 2024 #41
My condolences to you and your family. riverbendviewgal Feb 2024 #40
Condolences to you and you family. 2naSalit Feb 2024 #42
I'm so sorry stage left Feb 2024 #45
You all dif everything right...sounds like she was a good mom!!! Karadeniz Feb 2024 #48
So sorry for your loss. Lonestarblue Feb 2024 #49
Condolences Sleepless gademocrat7 Feb 2024 #50
I'm so sorry you lost your lovely mother. AllyCat Feb 2024 #51
I'm so sorry. ❤️ underpants Feb 2024 #52
Sorry for your loss. MOMFUDSKI Feb 2024 #53
May you and your family mercuryblues Feb 2024 #54
I'm so sorry for your loss. ms liberty Feb 2024 #55
My sincere condolences on your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Feb 2024 #56
Deepest sympathy to you and your family. sinkingfeeling Feb 2024 #57
Sorry for you and your families loss. Condolences to you all. marked50 Feb 2024 #59
Hugs XanaDUer2 Feb 2024 #60
My condolences. babylonsister Feb 2024 #61
That is exactly what I did. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #62
I'm very sorry for your loss. So glad you were there with beloved family. onecaliberal Feb 2024 #63
Sending my sympathy. pandr32 Feb 2024 #64
I'm sorry for your loss. Bluethroughu Feb 2024 #65
So sorry for your loss Saoirse9 Feb 2024 #66
I am so very sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Feb 2024 #67
God bless you Demnh2fl Feb 2024 #68
Sending you and your family hugs. MLAA Feb 2024 #69
Yup. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #71
I am so sorry GAJMac Feb 2024 #70
You all have been so wonderful to me and my family. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #72
Beautiful photos. Sorry for your losing her. ancianita Feb 2024 #73
Aww, she was just gorgeous!! Quakerfriend Feb 2024 #76
Absolutely! SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #83
beautiful. So sorry for your loss. Truly a beautiful person in "the age." You should document her "travels". Evolve Dammit Feb 2024 #79
I am so sorry. crickets Feb 2024 #74
I'm so sorry for your loss. mountain grammy Feb 2024 #75
So sorry. A parent's passing stirs up emotions never before felt. Stay well and cherish what you had. twodogsbarking Feb 2024 #77
Condolences. It's tough. paleotn Feb 2024 #78
I'm so sorry for your loss. badhair77 Feb 2024 #80
I'm so sorry for your loss. mia Feb 2024 #81
I am so sorry for your loss. Grumpy Old Guy Feb 2024 #82
So very sorry for your loss. AltairIV Feb 2024 #84
So sorry for your loss. sheshe2 Feb 2024 #85
May peace be upon you and your entire family...... KY_EnviroGuy Feb 2024 #86
It is such a privilege to be with a loved one when they pass away. 1WorldHope Feb 2024 #87
Rest in peace shenmue Feb 2024 #88
Peace to you and your family lonely bird Feb 2024 #90
So sorry. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #92
I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Feb 2024 #91
The glamor shots... SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #93
Peace and strength to you and family. kairos12 Jun 2024 #94
I am so sorry for you and your family. murielm99 Jun 2024 #95
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