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Bereavement

DeadLetterOffice

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4. I'm not sure 'easier' is the right word.

Reply to annabanana (Original post)

Wed Dec 24, 2014, 08:50 PM

Dec 2014

Different. Less acutely painful all the time. The tears become less frequent -- a creek rather than a river. The joy of remembering starts to outweigh the pain. The landmines get less 'everywhere' and more 'here and there.'

But it takes longer than you want it to, longer than the world wants to give you. And you never 'get over' it. You learn to live with it, learn to accept the 'new normal,' you move through and many find peace again, yes, but you never 'get over' it. Don't let anyone tell you you're supposed to, either.

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This is my first Christmas without my beloved. [View all] annabanana Dec 2014 OP

My dear annabanana... CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2014 #1

I'm not in a group. annabanana Dec 2014 #2

Whatever works for you.......and it sounds as though that is. Good! CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2014 #3

I'm not sure 'easier' is the right word. DeadLetterOffice Dec 2014 #4

Thank you DLO annabanana Dec 2014 #5

time does not heal all wounds but it does make them easier to bear Skittles Dec 2014 #6

This is my fourth PasadenaTrudy Dec 2014 #7

Peace to you, too, P.Trudy.. annabanana Dec 2014 #8