Knowing when to walk away.

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7. That's a tough one

I was forced out of my marriage basically, so I can't say I 'knew' when to walk away.

The old adage that "it takes 2 to make a marriage work" is true, but it only takes one to make it fail. If you aren't both trying equally as hard, then there is no point in spinning your wheels. Sometimes we get comfortable in our lives and it's scary to go out of our comfort zone, so we push on trying to make the 'comfortable' work. I'm not saying that is what you are doing - just relating my experience and the experiences of some people I met in a divorce support group. We all agreed that once we cleared the 'scary' hurdle, and got some distance from the situation we were in, we realized just how much sooner we should've made changes. Whether that change for you is intense counselling, or a trial split or something else, I can't tell you, but it sounds as if you are in desperate need of SOMETHING...and IMO the sooner the better. It's hard to go through life in limbo.