First, my ex-SIL was a controlling person. She could never be wrong, and over the years, I swear that if there was a way to make the person she was married to feel less of a person, she took that opportunity. My brother was no angel in the way he minimized her finishing her degree all those years, but as his earning power slip away and she finished her degree, I noticed more and more of a game play on who was king of the hill. I personally think counseling could have helped my brother 10 years before it ended, but he opted to go to the bottle intermittently.
This woman/ex-girlfriend seems to have a fantasy as to how relationships are supposed to be, which is Ozzie and Harriet. She also has a very close relationship to her ailing parents. Well, that's not hard to do, but the father seemed to take charge with some scorn against my brother in a very brief conversation that was not confrontational on my brother's part.
I guess I just feel like I want to infuse a dose of, "you WILL go on!". I hope he comes around soon with wanting to get this girl back. He's a decent and attractive guy who just needs some confidence in living in his own skin. He wants to please and sometimes thinks that THIS is how you express love. I believe you have to be yourself, so if someone is so incensed that you use swear words… well… 
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