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Coping with Divorce or Separation

OldBaldy1701E

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18. Now, Mr. Barclay...

Reply to LT Barclay (Reply #16)

Sat Oct 22, 2022, 08:18 PM

Oct 2022

Have you been tinkering with the holodeck again?

(Sound advice, btw. Been there myself a few times. I am not saying that they are, in fact, all nuts, but one just cannot rule it out. Especially when one finds oneself where you have mentioned... getting the 'lowdown' from each person as if the other were the sole cause of all the trouble.)

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Looking for some advice. We are out of our depths and quite lost at sea...read on. [View all] NewHendoLib Oct 2022 OP

Get her a lawyer, NO 'go back into the house and cohabitate,' elleng Oct 2022 #1

we are working on that as fast as we can. At this time it is 1.5 weeks away - too long NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #2

it hurts when kids hurt... markie Oct 2022 #3

All in play - we will know more tomorrow - NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #34

Her safety and wellbeing come first Wild blueberry Oct 2022 #4

thank you. She may be here with us tomorrow. We will know more in the AM. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #33

Get her out of that house montanacowboy Oct 2022 #5

YES, She is in danger! McKim Oct 2022 #15

yes indeed - agreed - thanks. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #32

No children ? dweller Oct 2022 #6

thanks so much. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #31

Safety 1st, NHL! No cohabitating. SheltieLover Oct 2022 #7

Us! The offer is there. It could happen tomorrow. Still a very rapidly changing situation. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #30

Yw SheltieLover Oct 2022 #37

Well if she suspects he could become violent... druidity33 Oct 2022 #8

that may be what happens next - tomorrow - we will know more then. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #29

NO! If divorce requires a mandatory year of separation, why would you advise her to cohabitate? pnwmom Oct 2022 #9

thanks - and we want her out of there - but she has to want to, and NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #28

If NC law requires mandatory separation for a year to get divorced, then why would Gaugamela Oct 2022 #10

absolutely. It is about her getting her basic things she needs right now NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #27

Posessions are replaceable. She is not. judesedit Oct 2022 #11

thank you. agreed. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #26

Wishing you all the best for your daughter and you. MLAA Oct 2022 #12

thanks - great suggestion...appreciated. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #25

Why would she cohabit when they legally need to separate? She needs to get a restraining order, Karadeniz Oct 2022 #13

Agreed - but it is complicated by the fact he keeps taking/moving her "stuff" NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #24

All she needs are her clothes and basics. Everything else will remind her of a bad marriage. Karadeniz Oct 2022 #35

exactly. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #36

Safety first. Dan Oct 2022 #14

Thanks - yes indeed. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #23

I'm going to offer a perspective that is not very uplifting, but may help you put things in LT Barclay Oct 2022 #16

Now, Mr. Barclay... OldBaldy1701E Oct 2022 #18

If I could find the holodeck again, I probably wouldn't leave. Things are crashing here too. LT Barclay Oct 2022 #20

Thanks - and you touch on something important - NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #22

Go to Nevada Randomthought Oct 2022 #17

I do divorces as a licensed non-attorney advocate in Washington state cilla4progress Oct 2022 #19

thanks - I answered your DM. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #21