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nadine_mn

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25. Can one be an extroverted loner?

Reply to xmas74 (Original post)

Tue Dec 13, 2011, 05:19 PM

Dec 2011

I have one of those personalities - I can't explain it - I can be very friendly and social and people love to talk to me - I must look very approachable. I also enjoy talking to them (I rarely if ever initiate - that's the weird part). I have worked as a victim advocate, so clearly being comfortable talking with others is an asset.

Yet, I consider myself shy - when I say this my husband laughs. I have a very extroverted personality I guess - I love to make people laugh and entertain people. I have done a lot of public speaking - I love it. But there is sort of a wall that separates me from being close which is why its ok - victim/advocate boundaries, presenter/audience roles etc - does that make sense?

But I prefer to be alone (or with husband and our pets).

I rarely use the phone, I don't have any close friends (some acquaintances that I email), and rarely go out. I don't feel lonely, but I guess I can't really say I am introverted.

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What is the purpose of this group? [View all] xmas74 Dec 2011 OP

It is self-defined. murielm99 Dec 2011 #1

I understand about the healing time. xmas74 Dec 2011 #7

Your choice catchnrelease Dec 2011 #2

I don't know if I'm actually a loner. xmas74 Dec 2011 #8

We are in similar circumstances The empressof all Dec 2011 #17

All of the above. LWolf Dec 2011 #3

I don't really have a version of "loner". xmas74 Dec 2011 #4

I think most loners would concur, LWolf Dec 2011 #5

I'm not a big fan of neighbors xmas74 Dec 2011 #6

Neighbors get kinda forced on one by default. One can't really go around a building RKP5637 Dec 2011 #12

I live in an older neighborhood. xmas74 Dec 2011 #13

IMO it's become a very strange country, particularly over the past decade or so. n/t RKP5637 Dec 2011 #14

It really has. xmas74 Dec 2011 #15

I sort of had that house... marginlized Dec 2011 #16

that would be heaven to me n/t shanti Dec 2011 #21

Me, too. freshwest Dec 2011 #27

For me, it's serious introversion - being drained by crowds and restored by quiet time. iris27 Dec 2011 #9

I understand about being taken advantage of. xmas74 Dec 2011 #10

A chance to talk with people who share how you feel about certain things. bemildred Dec 2011 #11

I live alone by choice. marginlized Dec 2011 #18

runs in the family shanti Dec 2011 #22

For me being a loner is a choice because I have the option of not being one. Speck Tater Dec 2011 #19

I like those endless activities. marginlized Dec 2011 #24

definitely self defined shanti Dec 2011 #20

I have few around me. xmas74 Dec 2011 #23

Can one be an extroverted loner? nadine_mn Dec 2011 #25

Yes. That's me. DevonRex Dec 2011 #26

Wow, public speaking ... I'm a Dale Carnegie dropout. marginlized Dec 2011 #28

I love speaking in public - crowds of 1 to 100+ nadine_mn Dec 2011 #29

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