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EnergizedLib

(2,251 posts)
30. What I mean is
Sat Dec 10, 2022, 11:38 PM
Dec 2022

I am a clinically depressed person who often hates life, but puts himself on a pedestal in his own head, demanding praise and attention and wanting to be the center of it.

I know what I’m capable of, but the problem is that so many others don’t. I have a job that turned me down twice before finally getting hired on my third application to it. Now I’ve been in it for three years and am very well received not only by my bosses (though I was hired under old management no longer there), but also many in the community.

I believe if I was given an actual, proper chance, I become someone’s special someone. Very, very seldom have I gotten much of a chance at all and those who did didn’t stay long, even though I never had a major blowup or fight with either of them.

I’m not worried about someone not checking every preference I have because I know everybody has something about them their partner doesn’t like. I didn’t like both of my partners had tattoos, but it’s whatever.

If anything, I used to be terrified if I didn’t check off a woman’s every preference, one wrong move and that would be it for me.

Then again, I used to not be able to get a date to save my life and five months of romance is still better than nothing at all.

I just know I’d like more.

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You still have time! calimary Nov 2022 #1
Thank you EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #2
Stop putting yourself down! Have more self-respect! Doodley Nov 2022 #3
Here's the thing EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #15
Aim to make friends first. It is literally impossible that there aren't women who Doodley Dec 2022 #27
Volunteer opportunities: animal shelter, libraries, environment restoration Tetrachloride Nov 2022 #4
Great advise. multigraincracker Nov 2022 #5
Thank you EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #16
Focus on your health, integrity, kindness, and engagement with society. Be a good friend to yourself Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2022 #6
Thank you EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #17
It's never wrong to be honest about what you want ExtremelyWokeMatt Nov 2022 #7
Welcome to DU, Matt. . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2022 #8
Thanks! ExtremelyWokeMatt Dec 2022 #26
Hi Matt! Welcome to DU and thanks for visiting us in the Loners Group! ❤️ littlemissmartypants Nov 2022 #13
Welcome EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #18
I'm 39 and unmarried so don't worry about it IronLionZion Nov 2022 #9
Thank you EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #19
Do you mean... ExtremelyWokeMatt Nov 2022 #24
What I mean is EnergizedLib Dec 2022 #30
I can understand that ExtremelyWokeMatt Dec 2022 #31
My humble advice is take care of yourself first Hugh_Lebowski Nov 2022 #10
Thank you EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #20
On the spectrum in a rural area is rough, but Timeflyer Nov 2022 #11
Thanks EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #21
When I was much younger and suffering a broken heart... jmbar2 Nov 2022 #12
Thank you EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #22
Hi Energized. There's lots of love in this group and many thoughtful and compassionate suggestions. littlemissmartypants Nov 2022 #14
Here's my experiences EnergizedLib Nov 2022 #23
Marriage is about relationships. You need to first build relationships. usonian Dec 2022 #25
I was a hermit most my life. I empathize with you. Don't give up. Doodley Dec 2022 #28
Thank you EnergizedLib Dec 2022 #29
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