I watched a youtube video of a Buddhist nun and she was talk about getting "bad" people

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9. Some very good advice in this thread. Focus on the present moment, wait to come to a decision when

you have calmed your mind. I will share an experience I have been having with my father over the past years. My father is an evangelical Christian and has very traditional views on women and homosexuality. He was never abusive to me as I was growing up but his feelings about women seeped into my subconscious and I never really thought very highly of myself. He has been living with my husband and I for two decades now. We used to get in very heated and angry arguments and I felt a lot of anger and resentment toward him. Still do to some degree, but it is lessening the more I come to forgive him for how his beliefs affected my self esteem, accept him for who he is, faults and all, and acknowledge that he has some good points too. Despite having misguided views on women, he has a big heart and is very generous. Acceptance of the world just as it is can be difficult. Focusing on the present moment and focusing on loving-kindness, and compassion can help at least in my experience it has.