How much would you be willing to forgive?

[saras]

2. I don't know what you're talking about, but it has nothing to do with forgiveness as I understand it

First, I would have died fighting them before getting that far. No forgiveness and hopefully no vengeance, just cold calm efficiency.

Forgiveness is what you do when you accept the amends someone has offered for the wrong they acknowledge without coercion.

Enabling is when you give someone the message that violating socially-agreed-on boundaries is acceptable and/or protect them from the consequences.

Beyond that, you're off into Stockholm Syndrome...

Some of us have known people who already have died, here or in other countries. It's not hypothetical.

Maybe the word you're looking for is pity?