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41. About 10 years ago, my former father in law went into palliative care

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Thu Jun 11, 2026, 08:09 PM

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He had been in a hospital for several months. The palliative care doctors came in and recommended hospice. My kids and my ex-wife sort of nominated me to explain to my ex-mother-in-law and ex-father-in-law what this meant. The palliative care doctors were great but this was still no fun

The hospice was great. I remember making daily trips. My ex-mother-in-law basically camped out at the hospice. My ex-father-in-law had worked for former mayor Sylvester Turner who came to visit him. There is a concept in hospice care of the last good day. My ex-father in law's last good day was when Mayor Turner came to the Hospice. My ex-father-in-law was alert and had a great visit. The next day he declined drastically and had passed within the week.

I am sorry for your father. Hopefully you will get to spend some time with him at the hospice.

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