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Study: Men Want Women to Chip In on Dates, but Are Afraid to Ask
Younger adults are more willing to share dating expenses


When women debrief each other about their recent dates, one of the first questions that come up is, “Did he pay?” Well, most men are still paying for dates, but wish women would pay sometimes too, according to a paper presented over the weekend at the American Sociological Association’s annual meeting in New York City.


The ritual of men taking out women dates back to the time when men earned more because most jobs were not accessible to women. By treating women, men were also showing their ability to provide for them in the future. But now that the percentage of men and women in the paid labor force is about equal — and 28% of women are making more money than men in households where both partners work — the study’s authors wanted to know if that shift in gender roles has contributed to women’s expectations about who pays the tab.

The study, which surveyed 17,607 unmarried, heterosexual men and women using a questionnaire posted on NBCNews.com, found:

•84% of men and 58% of women said that men paid for most dating expenses.
•39% of women hoped men would not ask them to contribute.
•44% of women were annoyed when men “expected” women to pay.
•44% of men said they would stop seeing women who never pay for dates.
•64% of men believed women should pick up from time to time, though 76% said they felt “guilty” saying so.
• 4 in 10 men and women said that dating expenses were usually shared within the first month, and nearly three-fourths (74%) of men and 83% of women said they’re shared by the sixth-month mark.

http://newsfeed.time.com/2013/08/14/study-men-want-women-to-chip-in-on-dates-but-are-afraid-to-ask/